And I hope all the IRONDADs out there have had plenty of opportunities to be the best fathers they can be today. I’ve found my own opportunity in building this site to share a journey I’ve undertaken. I’ve decided to complete a full IRONMAN in Cozumel, Mexico on 11/18/2018- my son’s 14th birthday.
A little background is probably in order. For the last couple of years, I’ve spent Father’s Day alone, missing my son terribly, and generally not knowing what to do with myself. I haven’t had contact with my son since last December. And it’s very difficult for me to be an active part of Max’s life in the chaos of the legal action his mother took in San Francisco Family Court and with the distance she put between us by moving to Paris, France. That’s all I can say about that, but it should give you some idea of why this journey is so important to me.
Things have been going well so far. I completed my first Olympic triathlon at Wildflower a few months ago. I followed it up with my first marathon in San Diego. I’ll be doing at least two more half IRONMANs before the big day in Cozumel.
While it may not have an immediate impact on my son, this is the best- albeit hardly the easiest- path I’ve found to become the best father I can be under the circumstances. I may not be physically present in my son’s life, but maybe I can teach him a few things from afar. Like, the secret to success is no secret at all. Successful people all say the same thing- the most important thing is to Never Give Up no matter what challenges you face. Maybe the first- and for some of us the biggest- challenge is to really understand what lies beneath the surface when they say that.
Fact is, we won’t overcome every challenge. Not only will we not always win- sometimes we won’t even finish. That’s exactly when we have to remind ourselves to never give up; when we let go of what didn’t work and open our minds with love and acceptance, a new approach will become apparent. As goals go, the path to mine is pretty well worn. Thousands of men and women have completed IRONMANs over the decades. But that doesn’t mean I should expect my own path to be a straight line.
I hope you come back and check in every now and then. Until next time, please keep in mind that being a good father is a full-time job, and an occasional word of appreciation on one of the other 364 days of the year wouldn’t hurt. But for today, the very happiest of Father’s Days to all you IRONDADs out there.