And I hope all the dads out there have had plenty of opportunities to be the best fathers they can be today. I’ve found my own opportunity in building this site to share an epic journey I’ve undertaken. I’ve decided to complete a full IRONMAN in Cozumel, Mexico on 11/18/2018.
A little background is probably in order. For the last few years, I’ve spent Father’s Day alone, missing my son terribly, and generally not knowing what to do with myself. I haven’t had contact with my son since last November. And it’s very difficult for me to be an active part of his life in the chaos of legal action in San Francisco Family Court and with the distance between us after his mother moved to Paris, France. That’s all I can say about that, but it should give you some idea of why this journey is so important to me.
Things have been going well so far. I completed my first Olympic triathlon at Wildflower a few months ago. And a few weeks ago, I completed my first marathon in San Diego. I’ll be doing at least two more half IRONMANs before the big day in Cozumel, which happens to be on my son’s birthday. Most of my time nowadays is devoted to training and educating myself on how to avoid injury while maximizing endurance, but I’ve found both interesting enough to keep me coming back for more.
It may not have an immediate impact on my son, but this is the most productive and positive path I’ve found so far towards becoming the best father I can be under the circumstances. I may not be physically present in my son’s life, but I can teach him a few things from afar. Like, the secret to success is no secret at all: successful people all seem to agree that the most important thing is to Never Give Up no matter what challenges you face. Maybe the first- and possibly the biggest- challenge is in understanding what lies below the surface of that deceptively simple mantra.
Fact is, we won’t overcome every challenge. We won’t always win. Sometimes we won’t even finish. That’s exactly when we have to remind ourselves to never give up; when we let go of what didn’t work and open our minds with acceptance, a new approach will almost always become apparent. As non-trivial goals go, the steps I take towards mine are pretty well defined. Thousands of strong men and women have finished IRONMANs over the decades. But that hardly means my own path will be a straight line.
I hope you come back and check in every now and then. Until next time, please keep in mind that being a good father is a full-time job, and an occasional word of appreciation on one of the other 364 days of the year wouldn’t hurt. But for today, the very happiest of Father’s Days to all you dedicated dads out there.